I know EXACTLY what you mean! This happened with a friendship of mine recently. We've been friends for about two years and although a few things annoyed me about her (she's always late, always talking about her latest purchases, harping on my husband for not bringing me flowers like hers does, etc), I kept telling myself it was me and I should be less judgemental. But over the holidays, she had some plastic surgery and flat out lied to people about having it done. Said she'd been eating right and doing P90X. I, of course, knew the truth and was forced to lie to OTHER friends when asked straight out about it. That was when I realized I didn't like this woman AT ALL. Nothing judgemental about that.
I'm going through this as we speak. My ex-mother-in-law, who is now deceased, once said "We have the right to not have anyong in our lives who we feel will pose negative effects, of any kind, in our lives." I choose to take this advice...daily.
Belette: True that. :) Sara- I was friends with someone negative for years. It took me a long time to accept the fact that she depressed me as much as she was depressed herself and was mean to them. I had to end the friendship because it took me days after being with her to turn my attitude back around. Presious- Good advice. It's always a choice to be made, right? And Ally, my Ally. Diet schmiet. Let them eat bread! x0x
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That is a profound truth. It would be helpful if you could figure that out before you disliked them.;-)
xoox
I know EXACTLY what you mean! This happened with a friendship of mine recently. We've been friends for about two years and although a few things annoyed me about her (she's always late, always talking about her latest purchases, harping on my husband for not bringing me flowers like hers does, etc), I kept telling myself it was me and I should be less judgemental. But over the holidays, she had some plastic surgery and flat out lied to people about having it done. Said she'd been eating right and doing P90X. I, of course, knew the truth and was forced to lie to OTHER friends when asked straight out about it. That was when I realized I didn't like this woman AT ALL. Nothing judgemental about that.
I'm going through this as we speak. My ex-mother-in-law, who is now deceased, once said "We have the right to not have anyong in our lives who we feel will pose negative effects, of any kind, in our lives." I choose to take this advice...daily.
I'm like that with diets. I never realize how much I love bread until I can't eat it all day every day.
Belette: True that. :)
Sara- I was friends with someone negative for years. It took me a long time to accept the fact that she depressed me as much as she was depressed herself and was mean to them. I had to end the friendship because it took me days after being with her to turn my attitude back around.
Presious- Good advice. It's always a choice to be made, right?
And Ally, my Ally. Diet schmiet. Let them eat bread!
x0x
If these negative beings are keeping you up at night, dump them.
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